Life can often be cruel and it can often be surprising and sometimes, the more we try to figure it all out, the less it all makes sense.
Just this month, both of my very best friends said a tearful goodbye to their beloved childhood pets. After spending a little over half of their lives loving something so unconditionally, there they were being forced to say goodbye. A goodbye that was completely out of the blue and a goodbye that neither of them could ever fully prepare for.
It was this particular life changing event that posed a question; how does someone ever find the strength to go through a heartbreak such as this and still come out untouched?
After personally going through a very similar struggle myself, around seven years ago now, the answer is you don’t.
Although we may survive it, none of us ever survive it completely untouched. Amazingly though, despite many of us believing otherwise, time really does heal all wounds. Although it may not seem like it at first, eventually, enough time passes us by and our wounds begin to heal. Eventually, another animal comes along and steals our hearts and eventually, we learn to smile again.
Although nothing may ever replace what was lost, given enough time, the pain will soon fade. Eventually, the sad memories will be replaced with happy ones and before we know it, what was once lost, is now a memory that can never be lost again.
Like our relationships with animals, the way in which relationships with people often end suddenly, also had me thinking.
It may have been a long time coming or it may have been a startling surprise, but however a relationship ends, when it does, someone is left heartbroken. At first, the pain may seem unbearable and the thought of loving someone again is bound to terrify us. Eventually though, as time passes by, the pain begins to fade, until one day the pain is just a distant memory and we’re finally strong enough to let someone else in.
Eventually, someone new will come along and sneak their way into our hearts. Eventually, the tears are replaced with smiles and as if almost in an instant, the pain we were once feeling suddenly melts away. Before we know it, we’re finally heading towards the light at the end of the tunnel and after everything, we’re finally strong enough to love again.
So it would seem that when life throws us a curveball that we aren’t quite sure what to do with or we’re faced with a struggle that perhaps we aren’t quite sure how to handle, time is often our safest bet.
Give it time and above all else have faith, because although it may not seem like it, we are quite often stronger than we lead ourselves to believe and eventually, like everything, we will get through it. There is a light at the end of every tunnel and if we walk for long enough with our head held high, eventually, we’ll see the rainbow start to shine through.
A rainbow that is bigger, brighter and more beautiful than we ever could have imagined.